This Japanese daddy found a genius scheme for a harmonious family life.
Strap in and brace for the warm fuzzies! Or possibly the cynical snarkies. Today we bring you a sweet tale of family harmony. Or possibly a nefarious yarn detailing the machinations of a genius manipulator.
Anyway, when a Japanese wife and mother recently shared a few anecdotes about her husband’s unusual brand of parenting and husband-ing on Twitter, it struck a chord with many readers. Let’s dive right in to the tweets.
夫が用事から帰ってきて「今日は何してたの?」と聞くので、「何もしなかったよ」と答えると、「それはよかったね。休めたでしょー」と。
— とけいまわり☺©@🌵48y (@ajitukenorikiti) March 4, 2017
長女に「宿題いつするの?」と聞いて、長女が「後で!」と答えると、「偉いな、やる時間自分で決められて」と。
どのボールも褒めて返す夫。
When my husband returns from his business and asks “What did you do today?” and I respond with “Nothing”, he always says, “That’s nice! You took some time to relax.” And when he asks our eldest daughter “When are you going to do your homework?” and she replies “Later!” he always says, “That’s splendid – you’re able to set your own schedule.” Whatever we throw at him, he returns it with praise.
夫は私が家事を頑張るたびに「すごい!えらい!」と褒めてくれるので、うれしくて頑張りすぎたために倒れてしまい、この人褒めて殺すタイプだ・・・と、これからは手を抜くことを誓ったが、手を抜いてからも「要領良いね!」と褒めてくれるので、単に私が自滅タイプなだけだった。
— とけいまわり☺©@🌵48y (@ajitukenorikiti) March 4, 2017
“When I’m working hard on housework, he always praises me by saying, “That’s splendid! You’re admirable!” which makes me so happy I work even harder. And then make myself unwell! This man is going to kill me with compliments… Anyway, I made a deal with myself to take it easier, but when I do that, he says, “You’ve really got your routine down!” and praises me again!”
Commenters were quick to respond with praise of their own for the man’s sunny outlook on family life, pointing out that praising others for the way they do things right, a.k.a. positive reinforcement, works much better than criticising them for doing things wrong.
Of course, the trick with this particular style of personal relations lies in seeming as genuine as possible, lest others sniff a hint of sarcasm or irony behind your flattery. Clearly, Papa has his routine down, too.
What do you think – genuine or evil genius?
Source: Twitter via Jin115.com
Top image: Pakutaso
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