
Simple behavior has a deep meaning, according to believers.
In Japan, as with much of the rest of the world, it’s becoming increasingly common for couples to spend at least some time living together before getting married. It’s a wise strategy, as gives a glimpse of each person’s at-home lifestyle, which helps lovers judge if they’re really compatible enough for them to tie the knot and make the cohabiting arrangement permanent.
But even if you’re living together, it’s not always easy to get a feel for your partner’s overall personality and values. Japanese Twitter user @r_itt_su, though, recently shared a quick and simple spot test to determine whether or not your live-in-boyfriend will make a good husband.
https://twitter.com/r_itt_su/status/1142757022888108032“If you’re saying ‘I don’t know where to look to see if my beau will be a good husband,’ here’s some advice. The answer is the iced barley tea pitcher. When the pitcher in the fridge is getting low, a guy who doesn’t say a word but goes ahead and makes a new pitcher of tea will be a good husband. A guy who leaves just a little in the pitcher so that his girlfriend has to make the next pitcher will be a bad husband.”
There’s definitely some logic to the liquid-based litmus test, as the two men, as presented within the simple confines of @r_itt_su’s scenario, do indeed seem to be a helpful/self-reliant dude and a lazy, self-centered guy, respectively. And with over 180,000 likes for the tweet, other Twitter users are nodding their heads in agreement, as well as sharing similar tests they use.
“You can also see if your boyfriend will be a good husband by whether or not he rinses out empty milk cartons, replaces the toilet paper roll, separates the plastic recyclables, and replaces the tissue box when it runs out.”
“I always tell my son ‘If you don’t do housework, no girl will want to marry you.’”
“The men who work in my office never make a new pot of tea. They just wait for one of the female employees to do it for them.”
“And on the flip-side, a woman who can ask ‘We’re almost out of tea, so can you make a new pitcher?’ and says thank-you afterwards will be a good wife. If she doesn’t say anything until she blows up and says ‘Why am I the only one who makes the tea? You should notice that and make it!’, the guy will probably react with ‘If you want me to make some tea, just say so!’, and they’ll just end up arguing.”
It’s not entirely clear why @r_itt_su (who describes himself as a ‘self-proclaimed handsome man’ in his Twitter profile) offered the barley tea test as a way to gauge specifically a man’s suitability as a spouse, since taking the initiative to make a fresh batch seems like an equally considerate action regardless of one’s gender. Maybe it has something to do with men in Japan traditionally being less proactive about housework then women, but either way, if your romantic partner is already foisting extra housework on you before you’re married, that’s unlikely to change after the wedding.
Source: Twitter/@r_itt_su via Hachima Kiko
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